“Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman without discretion.” ~ Proverbs 11:22
Another August has brought another heat wave. Invariably, it will also bring out the very latest in ladies’ revealing fashion trends. I remember well the difficulty I had as a college student keeping my eyes from straying when all the pretty girls would lay out tanning on campus. In just a few short weeks, many other Christian guys will be faced with the same temptations when TTU gets back in session. Even now, the young men from our youth group are undoubtedly dealing with similar struggles at the high schools.
So how do guys resist our lust? First of all, it really helps when our Christian sisters choose to dress modestly. It’s bad enough that we are tempted by girls who don’t know any better. We don’t need those who should be our biggest supporters tempting us, too! When we see our sisters resisting society’s pressure to wear what the world wears, it gives us encouragement and strength to resist our sinful desires as well.
Still, the fact remains that every guy is going to be faced with temptation. Even if every Christian girl on campus dressed appropriately, there would still be plenty of skin to look at. No matter how strong our desire to resist may be, our flesh is so weak. Every guy is tempted. Every guy sins. If anyone says he has no sin, he is lying (1 John 1:8).
What we need are weapons to fight temptation. And we DO have those weapons, provided by God himself. God is faithful, and he will not let us be tempted beyond our ability to resist. Though he allows our temptation, he also provides the way of escape, so that we are able to endure it (1 Corinthians 10:13).
And what is the greatest weapon we have against evil desires? Proper desires. When Satan tempts us with the desires of the world, we must find our refuge in the desires of Holy God. “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” ~ Romans 12:21
It is by God’s Word, spoken to our hearts by his Spirit, that we discern his desires. When faced with the temptation of what the world recognizes as beautiful, we must hold to a still higher standard of beauty. To God’s eyes, it is not a woman’s clothing or appearance which makes her beautiful, but that which is hidden in her heart. The imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit is very precious in God’s sight! (1 Peter 3:3-4)
The more time we spend in God’s Word, and speaking with him in prayer, the more our minds will be transformed, and our wills conformed to his, as we put on the new self which is created in the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness (Romans 12:2; Ephesians 4:22-24). Rather than simply having to “turn off” our sinful desires, we find that our desires themselves have changed! And as we begin to desire what God desires, we find that the things we desire in women are not what they once were.
Brothers, it’s time to stop chasing after the fleeting beauty which the world craves, and to value in our sisters (and especially in our wives, for those of us who have them) the things which God desires.
Sisters, make it your ambition to be a woman who is beautiful in God’s eyes. Then, the men you will attract will be the men who share the Lord’s desires. They’re the real keepers.
Laurie, YOU are my standard of beauty!
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” ~ Proverbs 31:30